I am nearing the end of my studies at Sex Coach U and this is my story of how I found and embraced this new career path as a Certified Sex Coach™. Perhaps you’ll see yourself reflected in who I was and what I was longing for prior to discovering the sex coaching career and, specifically, Sex Coach U.

Two years ago, I was working a 9-5 job as a Quality Improvement Specialist in the field of Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities. I was doing what I thought I was supposed to do in life: pick a career path, get a job with good benefits and decent pay, work Monday through Friday, and cram everything I didn’t get to during the week into the weekend. At that point, I was three years shy of having spent 20 years of my life in that career. While there were aspects of my career that I loved, I wasn’t in love with the stress, the toll it was taking on my mental health, or how much time it required me to be away from my family.

On and off over the years, I would get this itch to find something different. However, every time I sat down to explore other options, I would hit walls. Getting a job at a new company in the same field would mean a change of scenery, but still dealing with the same stress and challenges. I had thought about going to grad school, but couldn’t seem to find a degree that I wanted to spend that much time and money on pursuing. Switching fields, but staying in the 9-5 world wasn’t really what I was looking for either. 

I wanted something that would ignite a spark inside me. Something that made me feel excited and would make work fun again.

Discovering Sex Coaching

In 2020, I had developed a slight obsession with signing up for coaching summits. I spent a lot of time listening and learning from a variety of different coaches. I had gained so much valuable information and was making a lot of improvements in my life. 

Despite all the insight I was gaining, it didn’t dawn on me that I could become a coach. I didn’t feel like I had any amazing nuggets of information to share like all those other coaches had. That all changed in the fall of 2021 when I signed up for a coaching summit that happened to include a few interviews with sex coaches. Listening to them sparked my curiosity, especially when I recalled that I had joked with my mom in a conversation a year or two earlier about becoming a sex coach. 

It was like the universe was nudging me to take action.

One of the very first programs that I looked at during my internet search was Sex Coach U. In going through the website, I kept seeing the words “holistic,” “community,” “outcome-driven,” and “client-centered.” These words resonated deeply with me; this was the same type of support I had been providing for years in my current career. I realized how easy it would be for me to transfer these skills into a career as a coach. Maybe I actually did have some nuggets to share. 

I was also drawn to how transparent and thorough the information was on the website. After going through everything, more than once, I didn’t feel like I had any unanswered questions. I had looked at a couple other programs, but came back to SCU. It just felt right.

With much excitement, I told my husband about what I had found. My husband remarked that he hadn’t seen me that passionate about anything for a long time. It didn’t take me long to realize why. As a couple, we had also gone through some transformations of our own in the past year, including some big ones in our sex life. We both recognized the incredible impact it had, not only on our relationship with each other, but also in our lives overall. 

Becoming a sex coach would allow me to support others in realizing the power of pleasure, just like we had.

Taking the Leap into a Sex Coaching Career

Making the decision to pursue becoming a sex coach set off a string of events that completely changed my life, in a beautiful way. I signed up for the newsletter and soon found out that the next enrollment was not until February of 2022. In November of 2021, I started working with a clarity coach who helped me prepare for the application process and to leave my 9-5. 

I was so anxious about leaving the comfort of having a job with a steady paycheck. At times, it felt like I was jumping out of a plane, not entirely sure that my parachute was going to open. Between working with my clarity coach and the support of my family, I took that step out of the plane. I put in my notice at work in January, which was before I had even been accepted to SCU. I felt so deeply that I was on the right path that I took that leap of faith.

graphic depiction of a man jumping out of an airplane and sky diving with a quote on the side that says, “sometimes you just have to take the leap and build your wings on the way down.”

When I was accepted to SCU in February, I couldn’t have been more thrilled! From my first interactions with faculty in January, to my application interview, and then acceptance to the program, I felt welcomed. It has been an amazing journey since then. I have met so many wonderful people along the way. 

I quickly learned that the words that drew me in when I first looked at the website are not just words. SCU lives and breathes their values of holistic, client-centered, community, and outcome-driven support, not just with what they teach, but also how they treat their students. Because of this I feel confident in taking these values with me when I begin to support my clients on their journeys of growth and sexual awakening. 

As if I needed any additional reassurance that SCU was the right place for me, a few months ago I was going through some papers. In those papers, I came across something I had printed out about 12 years or so ago. It was about how to make partner sex more enjoyable and most of the tips on the list were from Dr. Patti. It is amazing how life brings us full circle to exactly where we are supposed to be. 

As I approach the end of my studies in the Core Certified Sex Coach™ program, I have been reflecting on where I have been and where I am going. SCU has provided me with a solid foundation for a sex coaching career and becoming the best sex coach I can be. Sometimes forward motion is done with baby steps; sometimes it is one big leap. Either way, you just need to take the first step.

Are you ready to take the leap into a career of your dreams? Join us for a free live Info Session to get all the information you need. Plus, you’ll get to participate in a live Q&A with the SCU Team so all your burning questions will get answered!