Sex in Your Stars: Taurus Edition is the fifth in a series of articles about the astrology of sexuality. The first thing to understand about sexual astrology is, well—it’s complicated. A deeper analysis of an individual’s psyche, desire nature, kinks and attractions considers the houses of the natal chart, the placement of Venus and Mars and their relationship to the Sun and other planets, amongst other details.

But there is a LOT to dive into when we simply use Sun sign astrology—for which all you need to know is someone’s birthday. As Sex Coaches, astrological insight into a client’s energy and personality is invaluable. The Sun is the heart of our natal fingerprint and it shines its revealing and singular light on the rest of our horoscope. When you want to understand what drives someone’s erotic nature, you should understand the Sun first. That’s why Sun sign-based relationship astrology is the stuff of legend, going back to Linda Goodman’s Love Signs in the 1970s.

We can do without the antiquated gender stereotypes of that era, however. This is love and sex sign astrology for the true Age of Aquarius—where we are wholly inclusive, embracing the LGBTQI+ and non-binary spectrum. No matter how we identify, we were all born with the Sun in a particular sign, and so were the humans we love (or hope to love and/or touch).

 

Taurus: The Steadfast Sensualist

Born: April 21 — May 21

Motto: I HAVE

Symbol: The Bull

Planetary Ruler: Venus

Element: Earth

Modality: Fixed

Taurus rules the neck, throat, vocal cords, and thyroid gland.

 

What is Taurus energy like? It’s solid, strong, sensual, unswerving, and effortlessly charismatic. A Taurus may just sit there and wait for you to come and get them, and you will likely be entranced enough to do so. Bulls are alluring in a way that you can’t always place when you first meet them. Like your favorite rich food or another indulgence you can’t live without, the Taurus will subconsciously addict you. Something seems to be happening at the level of pheromones, so why ask questions? Just enjoy the sugar-high.

Have you ever seen a happy, unstressed, well-taken-care-of cow just chilling in a meadow? They’re huge and imposing, but once you get close, not at all intimidating. They love to be stroked, to cuddle, to relax, maybe chew some grass, and lie in a bed of wildflowers, not doing anything productive at all. After getting over how sturdy and well-built a Taurus seems to be, no matter their actual size or shape, you’ll want to lie down in that proverbial meadow with them, watching the clouds float by with nothing pressing to attend to but filling up your senses with stimuli. They inherently understand pleasure for pleasure’s sake.

Taurus gives off a strong and silent vibe, but once you get them talking, they’ll charm your pants right off. Taurus rules the throat and there is something about their voice that’s deeply enticing. Yet a Taurus unable to exercise self-expression can become depressed, angry, gloomy, and self-destructive. Their keyword is “I HAVE” but it could just as easily be “I WANT”and when they’re left unsatisfied, it’s your problem, too. On the other hand, a well-fed or recently pleasured Bull is one of the most beautiful sights you’ll ever see.

A Taurus must have their material needs met. This doesn’t mean they are always rabid capitalists, however. There is the kind of Taurus that revels in the comforts that wealth can bring, and they have the ambition to match those financial goals. Then there’s the kind of Taurus that just needs to be fed and nurtured by their surroundings, ones that needn’t be lofty. They are the queens and kings of High Leisure, but even a Taurus of moderate means will know exactly how to create a sense of elegance anywhere. A Taurus definitely created “shabby chic” and the farmhouse esthetic.  

Venus, the planetary ruler of Taurus, is associated with what is traditionally perceived as feminine energy. Venus is sweet, receptive, loving, beautiful; a lover, not a fighter. Ruling romance, fertility, and prosperity, her domain covers many of the things we tend to covet. The Greeks knew her as Aphrodite, the goddess of love. In astrology, Venus has rulership over two signsTaurus and Libra.

Assigned to Taurus, Venus is a natural beauty, deeply sensual, and connected to the landscape as much as their body. Assigned to Libra, Venus takes on intellectual airs and is concerned more with the concept of beauty than the natural world; think of fine art, refined esthetics, and marriage as a cocktail party art form. Both kinds of Venus bring delight, but they come across quite differently.

As we learned in the Aries Edition of Sex in Your Stars, Venus is the consort of Mars, the masculine archetype in astrology. We don’t do gender roles here, but when someone has a strong Venus signature in their chart (this includes the Sun and other planets in Taurus), there is a connection to the earthy, grounded side of the divine feminine. It’s nurturing, sensual, and creates the sensation of safety and security. Letting yourself be seduced by a Taurus and  entering their garden of their earthly delights is deeply gratifying, and more than just a bit addictive. 

Relationship Energy

A Taurus takes their sweet, sweet, sweet time to decide whether or not you will be granted entry into their circle of trust, so if you set your sights on one, patience is the virtue that you will need in droves. They size you up, measure your qualities, and they won’t stand for fakes or phonies. Just be yourself.

This is not to say that a Taurus won’t meet you once and go home with you, but usually, it takes them a few dates to let you into their home, their castle of comfort and custom. Once a Taurus allows you to witness the elevated culture they’ve built around their most mundane daily habits, you’ll know they’re smitten with you.  

The secret a Taurus won’t admit out loud is that attracting partners has always come somewhat easily to them. With their Venusian energy, they’ve always been able to magnetize admirers without much effort. When you’re a beautiful human radiating sensuality, why exhaust yourself? In healthy, grownup relationships, it may come as a shock to an average Taurus that work is required to maintain an ongoing partnership. They often end up with pliant mates that will pick up their slack and make up for their laziness, but even this will eventually come back to bite them.

How will you know if a slow-to-communicate Bull has fallen for you and wants to stick with you for a while? FOOD. They will cook for you, take you out for meals, or in some way pay close attention to your culinary tastes. If a Taurus is indulging in their own hunger and ignoring yours, you’ll know that their priorities are elsewhere.

A Taurus cannot be easily pushed out of their comfort zone. They have a routine, and they have perfected it over time. This can be problematic when they get into rutsespecially relationship ruts. They adore someone that will enter their domain and vibe with their comfortable yet beautiful surroundings, on their schedule. If your Taurus happens to be a nightbird, but you’re an early riser, you’ll have to make accommodations. They’re not great with change, and instant change is No Bueno. Ease them into things.

The opposite sign to Taurus is Scorpio, and that’s key to understanding what makes the Bull tick. This shadow energy is rippling with transformational potential, and that can scare the humble Taurus, set in their ways as they are. This speaks to the nature of their relationships. Even though they prefer to be attached than to be single, partnerships can push them to places they wouldn’t go on their own. And a Taurus really hates to be pushed. Yet at the same time, when they connect with a partner that can impel them to face change, they grow by leaps and bounds.

Taureans tend to enjoy being single far less than their cosmic predecessor, the Aries. Bulls enjoy partnership more than most signs, and even if things stay the same for a long while, they won’t get quickly bored and look for an exit. Rather, if they’re being sated sensorially by a partner, even if they’re being fed the same thing each day, a happy Bull will not complain. Novelty is not important, it just has to feel good. They are often serial monogamists, choosing partners that remind them of the creature comforts of a previous lover.  

Communication is key to being in a relationship with a Taurus, but you must be patient with their uniquely slow way of collecting and expressing their thoughts. Be mindful that a Taurus unable to use their voice may eventually become enraged or despondent. Being a good, patient listener and providing positive feedback is necessary. Try repeating their words back to them by using statements like “What I hear you saying is…” and giving them plenty of time to respond. Whatever your own communication style is, you’ll need these skills to have a happy and successful relationship with your Taurus.

The cliché we all hear about Taurus is that they’re “stubborn as a bull” but it’s oh so much more complicated than that. A Taurus will back into their corner, fold their arms over their chest and refuse to budge, but only when they feel like they can’t express their needs and opinions. If you give them space to speak and know they’re being heard, they’re much more likely to be the sweet, docile Bull that charmed you at the start. Taureans tend to be collectors, and they don’t like letting go of lovers even when both of you have moved on to greener pastures. So if you get into a relationship with one, in some ways, it’s likely to never end.

The Taurus Desire Matrix

a couple kissing in a field representing taurus relationship energy

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Of all the signs, Taurus energy most closely mimics pure desire, without affectations. Everything they do is somehow related to their desire, even when they’re not thinking about seduction or sex. “Too much is never enough” is a thing you might hear a Taurus mumble out loud.

Remember when I said the alternative keyword for Taurus is “I WANT?” Well, this sign turns the act of wanting into an art form. Because even when they see someone they deeply desire, they know that waiting to touch them just prolongs the potential pleasure for both parties.

Once a Taurus makes a date with you, they will allow the desire to build and build until you cannot wait a second longer. They’ll use enticing texts, sweet nothings, make reservations, or tell you what they’re buying at the grocery store to cook for you, dropping hints throughout the day. They’ll tell you how much they can’t wait to get you in their bed… but then they’ll enjoy making you wait so very much that they might delay the consummation even longer, once they get you back to their place. They love to tease more than most other signs. Watching you squirm with desire, a desire they created and manipulated, is their specialty.

Everything you’ve heard about the sensuous nature of a Taurus is truedo believe the hype. No sign is more naturally at home in their five senses. They inhabit each one lustily, seeing, touching, listening, smelling, and tasting their lovers for many hours. They’re not doing this performatively, eitherit’s not something they read in a book or learned at a workshop. They are just HUNGRY for you, the same way they’re hungry for dessert. 

The thing about Taurus yearning is that the chasm of their desire is so deep it may seem to have no end at all. They’re hungry for you, and after they have you, they still want you. This is why sessions with a Taurus tend to last forever; they can’t figure out when to stop wanting what they want.

This fixed earth sign is not given to bells and whistles or athletic moves in bed. They prefer to keep things mostly vanilla, unless of course you bring actual chocolateeating in bed or off of your body is one fetish they heartily approve of. Before, during, and after sex, food is a big yes. In fact, if you’re having trouble getting a Taurus to communicate with words and unsure if they’re interested in you, cooking for them or with them can clear things up very quickly. The one place you might entice a Taurus into a quickie or some kind of unplanned sex is the kitchen counter, if they become so overwhelmed by the smell of spices that they’re unable to contain themselves.

Getting Down with a Taurus

Prepare to be there a while: Taurus is generally not into quickies. Even if you can get off from a fast romp, you’ll end up leaving your Bull sad and unsatisfied. Not that an orgasm has to be the endpoint of any sexual encounter with a Taurus by any meansit’s about the journey, not the destination for them. But if it’s too rushed, they will feel ungrounded and won’t have time to concentrate on each one of their senses and yours. And who would want to miss that?

Taurus is one sign that’s totally down with date night. Scheduling in sex works for them, especially if foreplay is built into the entire day and there is a lavish meal involved. Whether dinner is at a restaurant, take-out, or home-cooked (probably the most arousing option), you must linger over it and discuss it and eat from each other’s plates.

One of the most deliriously delicious things about sex with a Taurus is how long it lasts. This sign has endless stamina and wants to stay in bed for hours and hours and HOURS. This might mean extremely extended foreplay, an orgasm or two for each of you, cuddling and kissing and caressing and pillow talk, and then yet another ignition of your sexual response cycle, from start to finish, expanding in concentric circles. This is one of the many ways that getting down with a Taurus can reconnect you to your own body.

If you’re prepping for a romp with a Taurus, hoping to seduce one, or want to reconnect to your long-time Taurus lover, think through all the senses and how you can light up each one. Candles, incense, lighting, music or other sounds, and supple linens like silk or velvet will enhance the experience. But if none of those accoutrements are available, truthfully, mutual consumption of delicious, nourishing food before and after is more than enough.

A Taurus requires sexual and sensual enthusiasm more than they require experience. Inventive positions are fine, but unnecessary (unless it’s Cowgirl or reverse Cowgirl). Toys aren’t necessarily their thing, but if a certain toy elicits moans and clear signs of pleasure, then bring it on, says the Taurus. Kiss their neck, run your fingers over their throat, moan, and say “I want you” over and over. A little bit of light, consensual choking may be of interest, but only for certain kinds of Taureans.

Generally, you can apply the KISS method to sex with a Taurus: Keep it Simple Sweetheart. Just don’t rush them. Nothing turns on a Taurus more than being wanted, so tell them exactly how much you desire them before, during, and after sex. Gazing at them with complete, rapt attention, hunger and lust will only intensify their pleasure. Body worship, whether the Taurus is worshipping or being worshipped, is the ultimate expression of Taurean sexuality.

Most Compatible Signs

Sister earth signs Virgo and Capricorn understand what makes a Taurus tick: the natural practicality of a Bull comes out when they’re paired with signs that see the world from their pragmatic point of view. Not given to flights of fancy or idealism, Virgos know how to get down to business and Capricorns know how to take that business to the pinnacle of power.

A Taurus may sit back and watch their sibling signs get it done, and they can also help to calm these more high-strung tendencies, bringing them more ease and pleasure. And if a Taurus gets too lazy, Virgos and Capricorns can demonstrate the joys of hard work and accomplishment. The good news for a Taurus is that their overachieving sister signs will definitely be up for the job of providing as much pleasure as they receive, even if it takes a while.

Water signs Pisces and Cancer show Taurus how to inhabit the part of their soul that is often closed off to them and access the deepest part of their emotional selves without fear of losing control. Pisces can help a Bull access their imagination and expand their creative capacity, while Cancer nurtures and nourishes Taurus in a familiar and familial way. The only issue with these connections is complacency, and the potential for emotional drama that a Taurus may not be keen on dealing with.

Leo and Aquarius are the other fixed signs and they bring intense challenges to the cool, calm, collected sensibility of the Taurus. These signs are in a hard square angle to the constellation of the Bull, and there can be some pretty intense personality clashes here. Leos might seem at first too over-the-top and outrageous to the Taurus, and remind them of their own secret need for attention. But the Taurus tells themself that at least they keep it under wraps, while the Leo puts it all out there. Aquarius seems to be so intellectual that they don’t remember they even have a body, and this makes no sense to a Taurus, for whom the body and its sensations are primary. Yet both of these signs can teach the Taurus about parts of their personality that are hidden or suppressed.

Speaking of what’s hidden, Scorpio, Taurus’ opposite sign, brings all the Bull’s shadow energy into focus, and this can be simultaneously terrifying and enlivening. Scorpio partners show their Taurus lovers that constant transformation is the breath of life, while Taurus teaches Scorpio that there is no reason to be afraid of staying in one place for a while. This relationship is based on loyalty and commitment, but fits of jealousy are common in both partners.  

The Bottom Line

We all want to feel good, and being near a Taurus is a lesson in easy, guilt-free hedonism. It’s not just that you want to put your hands on them and feel their hands on your own body (you do want to do this), but you simply want to feel what they’re feeling. Observing a Taurus living comfortably in their body can make you covetousyou want what they want, and you also want to be wanted by them.

Value is a word often associated with Taurus, in the sense that their elevated taste and addiction to beauty make them an arbiter of exquisite values. Yet the deeper insight here is that a Taurus can get you in touch with your own valuesones that have nothing at all to do with money or the material world. When we have planets in Taurus or spend time with a Taurus, we come into a greater awareness of what we value and what we truly want and need.  

A Taurus can also teach you much about embodiment: the way they inhabit their own bodies conveys strength and solidity, no matter what shape or size they are. They are naturally grounded, with their feet planted firmly on the earth that is their ruling element, and when you’re craving stability and security, calling upon your nearest Bull companion can remind you how to stand strong in your own body and thus, calm your mind. And what better sets the stage for pleasure?

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