This is the first in a series of articles about the astrology of sexuality. The first thing to understand about sexual astrology is, wellit’s complicated. For a deeper analysis and more wholly accurate picture of an individual’s psyche, desire nature, kinks, and attractions, you would need to consider the houses of the natal chart, the placement of Venus and Mars and their relationship to the Sun and other planets, amongst other details.

But there is a LOT to dive into when we simply use Sun sign astrology—for which all you need to know is someone’s birthday. As sex coaches, astrological insight can be an invaluable starting point for understanding a client’s energy and personality. The Sun is the heart of our natal fingerprint and it shines its revealing and singular light on the rest of our horoscope. When you want to understand what drives someone’s erotic nature, you should understand the Sun first. That’s why Sun sign-based relationship astrology is the stuff of legend, going back to Linda Goodman’s “Love Signs” in the 1970s. 

That said, remember a Sun sign reading is not going to be universally applicable to everyone born under that sign, because as mentioned above, there are several other astrological aspects that influence our personality and sexual proclivities.

We can do without the antiquated gender stereotypes of that era, however. This is love and sex sign astrology for the true Age of Aquarius—where we are wholly inclusive, embracing the LGBTQI+ and non-binary spectrum. No matter how we identify, we were all born with the Sun in a particular sign, and so were the humans we love (or hope to love and/or touch).

Capricorn: The Ultimate GOAT

Born: December 21 — January 19

Motto: I USE

Symbol: The Sea Goat

Planetary Ruler: Saturn

Element: Earth

Capricorn rules the skin, joints, bones and teeth


What is Capricorn energy like? To start, it’s cautious, disciplined, old-school and persevering. Caps are the quintessential survivors of the zodiac. They go slow, move cautiously, and take life (and love) step-by-step. They can seem quite traditional and conservative (not necessarily politically conservative, however).

The secret to sea goats is that they can be really, really hard on themselves (unless they’re winning, of course.) As much as their ambitious striving can seem quite status-oriented, they just need to prove to themselves that they’re good enough—and to their partners, too.

Internet astrology hot takes will tell you Capricorns only care about money, power, and social-climbing: don’t believe the hype. At the core, a Capricorn’s constant quest for success is less about status and more about creating and sustaining inner strength. This goes for their approach to sex, too.

Capricorns are the builders of the zodiac, forever focused on Serious Subjects. But they have the driest wits of all the signs, and once they get over their initial shyness around new people, they’ll make you laugh until you fall overthis is one of the trademark ways they like to court new lovers.

Capricorn Relationship Energy

Capricorns can seem standoffish at first. They may quiz you about what you do, rather than who you are, but you should forgive them, because this is just their go-to for small talk. They can be extremely shy, so try to make them comfortable upon a first date or meeting while they’re quietly sussing you out.

They may do a cost/benefit analysis on whether to sleep with or date you. Once they decide that they want you, they can be a bit relentless about getting you to like them back. Sometimes they’ll fall for someone that they consider to be a fixer-upper of sorts, because they’re always looking for another job to do. But often they’ll choose someone who they believe is above their station, in order to give themselves yet another goaland to learn from someone they consider to be master.

In relationships, they want you to be better because they understand that we all can be better. For a Capricorn, there is no such thing as failure, only tweaking and tinkering until everything is perfect.

When young, Capricorns often have much older lovers, as they value expertise in life and love. When they get older, they’ll often take on a younger lover to repeat the cycle and put themselves in the teacher role—but only if they feel really secure about all they’ve learned. 

Capricorns are not terribly sentimental (because that seems like a waste of their time), but they make up for this by paying close and deep attention to everything that you say. They want to know what turns you on and makes you tick, and will ask questions and remember your answers forever.  

The Capricorn Desire Matrix

Capricorns think they want structure, stability, and control. Secretly, they often want to be fed, nourished, and swaddled up like a baby. That’s because their opposite constellation and shadow energy is fed by Cancer, a sensitive, intuitive, maternal water sign. Discipline and boundaries are Capricorn keywords, so a bit of light bondage is right up their alley. Since they are always in control at work or school or whatever they do on a daily basis, when engaging in BDSM, they can really come out of their shell in the submissive role. Restraint is one of Capricorn’s favorite words, and gifting them with high-end restraints from your favorite sex shop, or just some basic rope, can give them a lot to work with.  

They can really get into roleplaying, and teacher/student fantasies are one of their faves. Age play is another great option for Capricorns. Before there were Internet Daddies and Zaddies, there was Capricorn: the Big Daddy of the zodiac. Whatever gender they identify with, Capricorns are ruled by Saturn—the planet associated with authoritative energy.  

Getting Down with a Capricorn

a romantic couple of capricorns lays together on a dock looking into each other's eyes

Photo by Anna Shvets from Pexels

You can crack a Capricorn’s armor by getting them to stop working for a second and gently showing them how much they secretly want to be taken care of. (But don’t dare do this while they’re on a deadline, because they will never really forgive you for distracting them from their constant climb up their proverbial mountain.)

They schedule in their break time very carefully, so catch them when they look away from the computer or put down the phone. For dates, put on your best clothes, look sophisticated and refined (and like you have a lot of money, even if you don’t).

Capricorns are less likely than other signs to engage in a lot of casual sex, and if they do, they’ll need some kind of deeper connection with a one-time lover. They will do friends-with-benefits or situationships, but only if they feel that the person they’re sleeping with is on their intellectual or spiritual level. They have to respect you.

As an earth sign, Capricorns are grounded and connected to their bodies, so even if they’re not up for spontaneous, adventurous romps or anything that will interfere with their work schedule, they are very physical, sensual lovers. And they want to GET THE JOB DONE! This sign will not slack off or give in if you haven’t finished. Your Goat lover will not turn over and go to sleep when they’re done; they have stamina in spades. Capricorns strive to rise to the occasion, and if the occasion is sex, performance anxiety can unsettle and depress them. Tell them that it’s okay; don’t assume their usual can-do attitude always applies to what goes on between the sheets. 

Gentle biting (or not so gentle, but ask first) can be a turn-on for Capricorns, as their sign rules the teeth. This is a deeply spiritual sign, so they might want to experiment with Tantra, especially the kind that requires delayed gratification.

Most Compatible Signs for Capricorn

Fellow earth signs Taurus and Virgo understand the need for practical reality and treat their bodies (and yours) similarly to the Capricorn. Their opposite sign, Cancer, will awaken their shadow side and the deeper depths within. This can either attract or repel a Capricorn, but either way, this relationship will help them heal. Scorpios and Pisces (water signs) will show a Capricorn how to plant seeds and help them grow. Aries and Libra force Capricorns to grapple with their greatest challenges and this can be a satisfying match, simply because it’s not an easy one.

The Capricorn Bottom Line

Capricorns want the world and they want it NOW, but they also innately understand that the most important achievements in life take time. And they will wait, and work, and wait, and work some more, until they’ve scaled the mountain, secured the corner office, won the award, and gotten all the accolades. Accolades from their partner are especially satisfying, so say it and mean it. 

Capricorns can seem old when they’re young, as if the weight of the world is on their shoulders. They carry their heaviness like Sisyphus, and won’t put the boulder down until they’ve truly triumphed. After their first Saturn Return at the age of 30, they begin to relax a bit, and as they age, they seem to get younger and lighter.

There is nothing quite like being alongside a Capricorn for the ups and downs of that ride. They’ll make you want to be a better person, no matter what your sign. And the sex will only get better and better with time—just like them.

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